What if you wake up tomorrow and the only thing you have is what you told God thank you for yesterday. When I heard this question, it gave me a powerful wakeup call to be diligent and consistent in giving thanks to not only God, but to everyone and everything.
Not too long ago, I was talking with a client about helping him with his relationships and how to improve them. His story reminded me of my past struggles in relationships. I shared with him how negative self-talk was playing a powerful role in damaging my relationships. Most importantly, my relationship with myself. Because I thought of myself in a negative way, my feelings, choices, and behaviors fell in line with my thoughts. My turning point came when I woke up feeling sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I wanted better for myself because I knew I deserved better. I was finally able to accept that I was created for a beautiful purpose and was willing to do whatever necessary to take control of my destiny. Life coaching was a wonderful experience in my life. But I will always be thankful that I gave myself permission to live in the light and no longer exist in the darkness!
What do your voices say to you?
Future Focused
I am having a wonderful time discovering the added benefits of love. I imagine myself in the most beautiful, colorful, and peaceful world. It has taken me a long time to get here, but thank God I made it!
Each day, I purposefully place myself within my Love Bubble to protect me from negative people, negative circumstances, and any other thing contrary to my peaceful and loving spirit. Because of this, I have a greater appreciation of myself and the world around me. Instead of having to focus on looking out for myself, my Love Bubble allows me to accept people and circumstances quicker without needing explanations or justice. Love truly does cover a multitude of sin.
Do you know how to build your Love Bubble?
Future Focused
Trying to change someone is a waste of time. The very thought
of changing someone is saying that they are not good enough as
they are, and it is soaked with judgement and disapproval. That is
not a thought of appreciation or love, and those thoughts will only
bring separation between you and that person.
You must look for the good in people to have more of it appear. As
you look only for the good things in a person, you will be amazed at
what your new focus reveals.
The Secret
What do you admire most about your loved ones?
Future Focused
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.
To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to
permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud
words, but in great deeds.
To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true
to the best that is in me.
Christian D. Larson
The Optimist’s Creed
What promises do you make to yourself?
Future Focused
To LET GO does not mean to stop caring, it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To LET GO is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To LET GO is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequenses.
To LET GO is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To LET GO is not to try to change or blame another, it’s to make the most of myself.
To LET GO is not to care for, but to care about.
To LET GO is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To LET GO is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To LET GO is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but allow others to affect their own destinies.
To LET GO is not to be protective, it’s to permit another to face reality.
To LET GO is not to deny, but to accept.
To LET GO is not to nag,scold, or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To LET GO is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it.
To LET GO is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To LET GO is to fear and love more.
Have you LET GO?
Future Focused
There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind. She
hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always
there for her. She told her boyfriend, “If I could only see
the world, I would marry you.”
One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages
came off, she was able to see everything, including her
boyfriend.
He asked her, “Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?” The
girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The
sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn’t expected
that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life
led her to refuse to marry him.
Her boyfriend left in tears and days later wrote a note to her
saying: “Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before
they were yours, they were mine.”
This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.
Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who
was always by their side in the most painful situations.
Life Is a Gift
Today before you say an unkind word – Think of someone who can’t
speak.
Before you complain about the taste of your food – Think of someone
who has nothing to eat.
Before you complain about your husband or wife – Think of someone
who’s crying out to GOD for a companion.
Today before you complain about life – Think of someone who went
too early to heaven.
Before whining about the distance you drive- Think of someone who
walks the same distance with their feet.
And when you are tired and complain about your job – Think of the
unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your
job.
And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down – Put a smile on
your face and think: you’re alive and still around.
Author Unknown
How do you show your love to others?
Future Focused
Rule #1: DO NOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE THINGS YOU CANNOT CONTROL.
This can be only our behavior, no one else’s behavior. To be in control
of our own behavior, we must recognize its limits.
Rule #2: TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF OR YOU CAN’T TAKE CARE OF ANYONE ELSE.
Rule #3: TROUBLE IS EASIER TO PREVENT THAN TO FIX.
Rule #4: BE ACCEPTING OF YOURSELF.
Don’t ignore feelings and needs; accept limitations.
Limit the “tyranny of the shoulds.”
Rule #5: BE ACCEPTING OF OTHERS.
Limit the “shoulds.”
Rule #6: ASK FOR SUPPORT WHEN YOU NEED IT.
Seek people out who support you and use positive thinking skills.
Rule #7: ACCEPT, ALTER, OR AVOID A NEGATIVE SITUATION.
Rule #8: IF YOU NEVER MAKE MISTAKES, YOU’RE NOT LEARNING ANYTHING.
Rule #9: LIFE IS NOT FAIR OR A CONTEST.
Avoid the all-too-common “comparison trap.”
Rule #10: ONE HAS TO START WHERE A PERSON IS AT.
Author Unknown
Are you a survivor?
Future Focused
