Ask For Help!

Ladies, my wish today is to coach you on how and when to ask for help. It breaks my heart to see and hear of women suffering in silence. The more responsibility you have, the more need you will have for help. Truthfully, asking for help is a sign of intelligence and strength. Even though we are  wonderfully made, there are limitations to our superpowers. We all possess a unique individual gift, but using those gifts collectively gives us our greatest potential for power.

In 2006, I founded Future Focused Professional Life Coaching because I found myself struggling asking for help. And not just any help. I needed help that would be discreet, encouraging, and affirming.  Back then, I was working as a psychotherapist. I needed someone that could understand that I shouldered the daily responsibilities of both patient concerns and healthcare staff members. In my job, there was very little room for error. Strangely enough, this is what made me one of the best, but also made me feel alone and stressed.

Please, please, please ladies take great care of yourselves. Do as I did, ASK FOR HELP! It will be the best decision of your life. It’s okay to be selective about the type of help you receive. Quality is important. Call Future Focused for professional life coaching services today. There are several ways that we can help you. Face-to-face, telephone, electronic mail, and Skype.  There is no longer an excuse for hiring the best. Call us now @ (901) 494-8033 or email us at iamfuturefocused@yahoo.com.

How will you get the help you need?

Future Focused

Dust Yourself Off

Tis the season for those wonderful New Year’s Resolutions. If you’re like me, you have a strong desire to have a better quality of life. There are several poor habits that I wish to correct. Some of them are small while others feel impossible to change. However, today I give myself permission to make mistakes. I pledge to be kinder to myself with my thoughts and actions. And if I fall short of my goals, I promise to speak gentle and encouraging words of life into my spirit.  My new motto is, “Dust yourself off and try again!”

What tool do you use to stay on track?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           Future Focused

Soul Food

Years ago, I had a tremendous battle with anxiety. But on the outside, people told me I always looked cool, calm, and collected. It was my secret shame. I thought, if others are not able to see the torment I feel on the inside, then I must be okay.  That line of thinking became a source of pride for me.  If you notice, I was living with unhealthy doses of shame and pride. Two very powerful ingredients for self-destruction.

As expected, my carefully constructed world came to a screeching halt.  It was time for me to make serious changes. My pride and shame cost someone like me a high price. I began to lose my self-respect and sense of personal intergrity. So I began to seek help from various sources to help me overcome this demon.

The biggest lesson I learned was that I have power over my thoughts. So I payed close attention to what I was feeding my soul. Such a simple assignment yielded great results. So I went into action by removing anything and anyone that was negative in my life. For example, I stopped watching negative tv, I spent more time with people who nurished my soul, and every day I would celebrate something that I admire about myself. I was blown away at the difference this made in my life.

Today, I am the author of my destiny. No longer a passive bystander of life. I make it a great day or I make it a not so good day. Either way, I empower myself to be whatever I choose. I feed my soul whatever it needs to shine brightly!

 

What kind of Soul Food have you been eating?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  Future Focused

 

 

Voices In My Head

Not too long ago, I was talking with a client about helping him with his relationships and how to improve them.  His story reminded me of  my past struggles in relationships.  I shared with him how negative self-talk was playing a powerful role in damaging my relationships.  Most importantly, my relationship with myself.  Because I thought of myself in a negative way, my feelings, choices, and behaviors fell in line with my thoughts. My turning point came when I woke up feeling sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I wanted better for myself because I knew I deserved better.  I was finally able to accept that I was created for a beautiful purpose and was willing to do whatever necessary to take control of my destiny.  Life coaching was a wonderful experience in my life. But I will always be thankful that I gave myself permission to live in the light and no longer exist in the darkness!

What do your voices say to you?

Future Focused

 

How I Got Over

Life can be amazing on many levels. A few days ago, I was reminded of just how far I have come as a human being. I recalled many dark and traumatic places and times.  Those times felt so real that I believed it was my only reality.  Fast forward to years later, and I can see just how many negative circumstances that I successfully overcome.

My secrets to success have been my deep spirituality and surrounding myself with healthy and trustworthy people.  I have learned to not only to spend quality time with God, but to listen to His voice and follow through.  And just when I needed something the most, the right person(s) was always there.  My loving and life saving support system.

Each life experience has helped to make me into the woman I am today.  So in this moment is a woman grateful for her life and the ability to live it to the fullest!  I am proud of me!

What have you overcome?

Future Focused

The Power of Cool

The very moment we take control of our lives and destiny, we set into motion waves of positive energy that have interesting ripple effects.  In our genuine quest to become better, the universe will most assuredly give us necessary opportunities to challenge our thinking.  And if your’re like me, even though I have learned to welcome those challenges, I don’t always like the way they make me feel.

Years ago, a wonderfully wise and beautiful friend taught me the “Power of Cool.”  The Power of Cool is a phrase I  coined to mean remaining cool and calm in negative or uncertain circumstances.  I recently have employed The Power of Cool method and realized two wonderful effects it produced.

First, my unhealthy circumstances forced me to remember why taking control of my life, in this moment, is necessary.  It taught me that my dreams, hopes, and desires are worth any challenge. Each day has given me new respect for myself, increased my self-worth, and given me a stronger desire to accomplish my goals.

Second, the people around me are given beautiful opportunities for change.  When I do not react they way others expect, then at that moment they must adapt. When I remain cool and unemotional, my positive energy sends a powerful message that I am in control and have a wonderful and well deserved advantage.

No matter what circumstance you find yourself in, remember “The Power of Cool” and why it is important to your destiny.

“Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain cool and unruffled under all circumstances.” Thomas Jefferson

How do you control your circumstances?

Future Focused

I Just Did It

It feels incredible! It’s an emotional high that puts joy in my heart and peaceful in my sleep.  I’m sure by now you are wondering, “What is so incredible?”  Well, I’m glad you asked.  I crossed off an important item on my bucket list.  This was special because I had to face many fears, do a lot of changing, and grow through what felt like unending criticism.

Today, I’m standing taller because my desire for change was stronger than any negative energy the world had to offer.  Not only do I want better for my life, I believe I deserve better.

When was the last time you felt on top of the world?

Future Focused

On the Good Foot

This year will be the year that my dreams come true.  I know this for a fact because I am taking the necessary actions to make it happen.  I have come to a place in my life where I no longer want to just think about a better life.  Now, I have given myself the love and freedom to DO IT!

My comfort zones have been abandoned, my head is filled with positive thoughts, and my heart is protected with faith. So now as I rise on the good foot, I stand knowing that success is mine and I can’t wait to share it.

 

How will you make your dreams come true?

Future Focused

Did I Do That?

You are responsible for your life, and when you take

responsibility for all your past mistakes, without any

blame to yourself, it is proof that you have shifted your

consciousness and that you are seeing the truth of your

life and the law of attraction.  From this new consciousness

you will automatically attract the life you deserve.

The Secret

 

What good things do you deserve?

Future Focused

10 Ways To Experience Happiness

1. TURN UP THE MUSIC LOUD
2. WATCH YOUR FAVORITE MOVIE/SITCOM
3. SING AND DANCE WITH OR WITHOUT AN AUDIENCE
4. REACH OUT TO POSITIVE PEOPLE
5. GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND DO SOMETHING FUN
6. DO SOMETHING NICE FOR SOMEONE
7. ACCOMPLISH SOMETHING THAT YOU HAVE BEEN NEEDING TO GET DONE
8. TAKE A RIDE AROUND TOWN WITH THE WINDOWS OR TOP DOWN
9. EAT YOUR FAVORITE MEAL
10. FIND SOMEONE TO GIVE YOU LOTS OF HUGS AND KISSES