There are times when life becomes very demanding and difficult to manage. So many people, places, or things command our time and attention. Have you ever found yourself lying in bed trying desperately to turn off your mind? Me too. Unplugging from my world helps me to reconnect to my personal power source. This means no phone, electronic gadgets, or people. For me, when peace is still, my cup is preparing to runneth over.
Ladies, my wish today is to coach you on how and when to ask for help. It breaks my heart to see and hear of women suffering in silence. The more responsibility you have, the more need you will have for help. Truthfully, asking for help is a sign of intelligence and strength. Even though we are wonderfully made, there are limitations to our superpowers. We all possess a unique individual gift, but using those gifts collectively gives us our greatest potential for power.
In 2006, I founded Future Focused Professional Life Coaching because I found myself struggling asking for help. And not just any help. I needed help that would be discreet, encouraging, and affirming. Back then, I was working as a psychotherapist. I needed someone that could understand that I shouldered the daily responsibilities of both patient concerns and healthcare staff members. In my job, there was very little room for error. Strangely enough, this is what made me one of the best, but also made me feel alone and stressed.
Please, please, please ladies take great care of yourselves. Do as I did, ASK FOR HELP! It will be the best decision of your life. It’s okay to be selective about the type of help you receive. Quality is important. Call Future Focused for professional life coaching services today. There are several ways that we can help you. Face-to-face, telephone, electronic mail, and Skype. There is no longer an excuse for hiring the best. Call us now @ (901) 494-8033 or email us at iamfuturefocused@yahoo.com.
How will you get the help you need?
Future Focused
Tis the season for those wonderful New Year’s Resolutions. If you’re like me, you have a strong desire to have a better quality of life. There are several poor habits that I wish to correct. Some of them are small while others feel impossible to change. However, today I give myself permission to make mistakes. I pledge to be kinder to myself with my thoughts and actions. And if I fall short of my goals, I promise to speak gentle and encouraging words of life into my spirit. My new motto is, “Dust yourself off and try again!”
What tool do you use to stay on track? Future Focused
Years ago, I had a tremendous battle with anxiety. But on the outside, people told me I always looked cool, calm, and collected. It was my secret shame. I thought, if others are not able to see the torment I feel on the inside, then I must be okay. That line of thinking became a source of pride for me. If you notice, I was living with unhealthy doses of shame and pride. Two very powerful ingredients for self-destruction.
As expected, my carefully constructed world came to a screeching halt. It was time for me to make serious changes. My pride and shame cost someone like me a high price. I began to lose my self-respect and sense of personal intergrity. So I began to seek help from various sources to help me overcome this demon.
The biggest lesson I learned was that I have power over my thoughts. So I payed close attention to what I was feeding my soul. Such a simple assignment yielded great results. So I went into action by removing anything and anyone that was negative in my life. For example, I stopped watching negative tv, I spent more time with people who nurished my soul, and every day I would celebrate something that I admire about myself. I was blown away at the difference this made in my life.
Today, I am the author of my destiny. No longer a passive bystander of life. I make it a great day or I make it a not so good day. Either way, I empower myself to be whatever I choose. I feed my soul whatever it needs to shine brightly!
What kind of Soul Food have you been eating? Future Focused
Not too long ago, I was talking with a client about helping him with his relationships and how to improve them. His story reminded me of my past struggles in relationships. I shared with him how negative self-talk was playing a powerful role in damaging my relationships. Most importantly, my relationship with myself. Because I thought of myself in a negative way, my feelings, choices, and behaviors fell in line with my thoughts. My turning point came when I woke up feeling sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I wanted better for myself because I knew I deserved better. I was finally able to accept that I was created for a beautiful purpose and was willing to do whatever necessary to take control of my destiny. Life coaching was a wonderful experience in my life. But I will always be thankful that I gave myself permission to live in the light and no longer exist in the darkness!
What do your voices say to you?
Future Focused
Life can be amazing on many levels. A few days ago, I was reminded of just how far I have come as a human being. I recalled many dark and traumatic places and times. Those times felt so real that I believed it was my only reality. Fast forward to years later, and I can see just how many negative circumstances that I successfully overcome.
My secrets to success have been my deep spirituality and surrounding myself with healthy and trustworthy people. I have learned to not only to spend quality time with God, but to listen to His voice and follow through. And just when I needed something the most, the right person(s) was always there. My loving and life saving support system.
Each life experience has helped to make me into the woman I am today. So in this moment is a woman grateful for her life and the ability to live it to the fullest! I am proud of me!
What have you overcome?
Future Focused
In the past few months, life has dealt me several hard blows. Earlier this year, I began seeking answers to questions like, “Who am I?”, “What purpose would I like my life to have?”, “What ways can I leave this earth better than what it is now?”
After a beautiful conversation with a friend, I realized, “I’m a fighter!” My down never means I’m out. My silence never means I’m weak. And most importantly, my tears usually mean that my soul is being cleansed.
A clean soul makes for a free spirit. A free spirit makes a happy heart. And a happy heart opens the way to a more balanced life.
How do you cope with stress?
Future Focused
Death of a loved one. Extreme stress. Tight deadlines. Mental exhaustion. Unfair expectations.
AND STILL I RISE!
What are your struggles?
Future Focused
The very moment we take control of our lives and destiny, we set into motion waves of positive energy that have interesting ripple effects. In our genuine quest to become better, the universe will most assuredly give us necessary opportunities to challenge our thinking. And if your’re like me, even though I have learned to welcome those challenges, I don’t always like the way they make me feel.
Years ago, a wonderfully wise and beautiful friend taught me the “Power of Cool.” The Power of Cool is a phrase I coined to mean remaining cool and calm in negative or uncertain circumstances. I recently have employed The Power of Cool method and realized two wonderful effects it produced.
First, my unhealthy circumstances forced me to remember why taking control of my life, in this moment, is necessary. It taught me that my dreams, hopes, and desires are worth any challenge. Each day has given me new respect for myself, increased my self-worth, and given me a stronger desire to accomplish my goals.
Second, the people around me are given beautiful opportunities for change. When I do not react they way others expect, then at that moment they must adapt. When I remain cool and unemotional, my positive energy sends a powerful message that I am in control and have a wonderful and well deserved advantage.
No matter what circumstance you find yourself in, remember “The Power of Cool” and why it is important to your destiny.
“Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain cool and unruffled under all circumstances.” Thomas Jefferson
How do you control your circumstances?
Future Focused
We all have people in or lives that have a difficult time managing their relationships.
Whether they are romantic, friendships, business, or family, we all have ups and
downs.
One of the best remedies for such difficulties is to figure out what role you play.
What are you doing or not doing? What are you saying or not saying? Do you
fight fair? Do you like who you become when you are around this person?
Even though love at times can feel like a rollercoaster, you must know when it
is best to get off of the ride. Loving relationships move you forward in a
healthy and positive direction together. Getting the answers to these
important questions will put you on the right track to a healthier relationship.
How does your love treat you?
Future Focused
