Words and Destiny

Take a moment to reflect on your deepest and most private thoughts. Are you thinking words of love and encouragement, or hopelessness and frustration? Be mindful of the thoughts that dominate your spirit. Those thoughts will surely become behaviors. Behaviors will become habits. Habits will shape your character. And your character will lead you to your destiny. We have the power to create our realities through thoughts, so make it a great one!

What thoughts are you speaking into your spirit?

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Ask For Help!

Ladies, my wish today is to coach you on how and when to ask for help. It breaks my heart to see and hear of women suffering in silence. The more responsibility you have, the more need you will have for help. Truthfully, asking for help is a sign of intelligence and strength. Even though we are  wonderfully made, there are limitations to our superpowers. We all possess a unique individual gift, but using those gifts collectively gives us our greatest potential for power.

In 2006, I founded Future Focused Professional Life Coaching because I found myself struggling asking for help. And not just any help. I needed help that would be discreet, encouraging, and affirming.  Back then, I was working as a psychotherapist. I needed someone that could understand that I shouldered the daily responsibilities of both patient concerns and healthcare staff members. In my job, there was very little room for error. Strangely enough, this is what made me one of the best, but also made me feel alone and stressed.

Please, please, please ladies take great care of yourselves. Do as I did, ASK FOR HELP! It will be the best decision of your life. It’s okay to be selective about the type of help you receive. Quality is important. Call Future Focused for professional life coaching services today. There are several ways that we can help you. Face-to-face, telephone, electronic mail, and Skype.  There is no longer an excuse for hiring the best. Call us now @ (901) 494-8033 or email us at iamfuturefocused@yahoo.com.

How will you get the help you need?

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Voices In My Head

Not too long ago, I was talking with a client about helping him with his relationships and how to improve them.  His story reminded me of  my past struggles in relationships.  I shared with him how negative self-talk was playing a powerful role in damaging my relationships.  Most importantly, my relationship with myself.  Because I thought of myself in a negative way, my feelings, choices, and behaviors fell in line with my thoughts. My turning point came when I woke up feeling sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I wanted better for myself because I knew I deserved better.  I was finally able to accept that I was created for a beautiful purpose and was willing to do whatever necessary to take control of my destiny.  Life coaching was a wonderful experience in my life. But I will always be thankful that I gave myself permission to live in the light and no longer exist in the darkness!

What do your voices say to you?

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How I Got Over

Life can be amazing on many levels. A few days ago, I was reminded of just how far I have come as a human being. I recalled many dark and traumatic places and times.  Those times felt so real that I believed it was my only reality.  Fast forward to years later, and I can see just how many negative circumstances that I successfully overcome.

My secrets to success have been my deep spirituality and surrounding myself with healthy and trustworthy people.  I have learned to not only to spend quality time with God, but to listen to His voice and follow through.  And just when I needed something the most, the right person(s) was always there.  My loving and life saving support system.

Each life experience has helped to make me into the woman I am today.  So in this moment is a woman grateful for her life and the ability to live it to the fullest!  I am proud of me!

What have you overcome?

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Count It All Joy

The other day I was thinking about my life and how I have chosen to live it.  It was a beautiful experience looking back and seeing how my choices have led me to this season of my life.  Here’s what I learned about myself:

First, I live with few regrets.  Years ago, I promised myself that living with regrets would not be my reality. There was a time in my life when I was afraid to live life. I protected myself too much and became bitter as I watched other people live life.

Second, God has given me what at times I wasn’t able to give myself. “LOVE.”  Looking back at some of the more difficult moments of my life, I can see the loving hand of God at work. I recall tender memories of various people giving me a hand up and encouraging me to pursuit my dreams.

Lastly, being aware of my destiny. Since the age of nine, I knew being a life coach/therapist/counselor was my life’s calling. For as long as I can remember, I felt that God gave me this gift to share with the world. When I operate within my gift, I feel a closer connection to God. The closer I am to God, the better friend I am to myself. And when I am loving to myself I become a more dynamic life coach to my clients.

Life’s good!

What does your life teach you?

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Can’t We All Just Get Along? No really, I’m Serious! Part 2

Anyone that knows me, is well aware that I live by the philosophy of , “Live and Let Live!”  My heart truly believes that everyone has the right to live a life that is most authentic to their spirit.  Rarely, will I ever join in unproductive debates about politics, religion, or things that I believe are wrong about a particular person.  For as long as I can remember, my mind focuses on discussing ideas and possibilities rather than problems and negativity. But once in a blue moon, I find it hard to remain silent about a particular situation.  So for those of you that normally read my blog posts, I warn you now that this post will have some differences.

I’m sure there are very few people that have not heard about the death of Travon Martin and the involvement of George Zimmerman.  There have been plenty of moments when secretly I have wept for not only Travon and his family, but also the state of humanity.

Over the past few weeks, I have heard so many bizarre and disturbing details that for my emotional sanity, I have purposefully stayed away from any news concerning the case.  That was until this morning.

I was checking my email and I saw a news story about Spike Lee apologizing for a retweet.  Curiosity got the best of me and I clicked on the link to read the story.  Needless to say, I was horrified at what I read. Spike Lee retweets the incorrect address of George Zimmerman to his twitter followers. Consequently displacing an elderly couple in their 70′s. OMG! It is my understanding that this couple feared for their physical and emotional safety.  Could you imagine walking to your mailbox and receiving hate mail from strangers, or stepping outside your door and seeing strange packages from people you do not know?  What is the likelihood that this elderly couple in their 70′s tweet and facebook? Literally, you go to bed feeling reasonably safe only to wake up and discover that you are the most hated person in America and not knowing what you did to whomever to upset them.

Here’s the point of this long rant. Adding hatred to perceived hate will not bring  justice, peace, or healing. What was Spike Lee and Rosanne Barr thinking? I really would like to hear them say what positive outcome they hoped for by giving what they thought was George Zimmerman’s address. In my opinion, here we have two celebrities that have a well documented  histories of public scandal and feeling misunderstood.  I’m pretty sure there was a time in their careers that the media and the jury of public opinion have mercilessly crucified them, justified or not.  But rarely have I heard of anyone being persecuted or judged, later tell stories of how much they appreciated that season persecution.

Other than justice, peace, and healing for everyone involved, I pray most for Trayvon Martin’s life to serve as a powerful reminder of why love is so very important. The reason why stereotypes and racial profiling is tolerated and used by us all, (be honest with yourself here) is because of our resistance to step outside of our comfort zones and get to know people that are different from ourselves.  That doesn’t mean that you will like everyone, but you will at least have a working knowledge of the differences that make each person unique.

WAKE UP people! Start loving yourselves so that you are not quick to focus on what you see as a problem in someone else.  Get rid of all people and things that feed negativity into your spirit. Start asking yourself why someone or something has you so angry. Love yourself enough to grow through the experience and remember to be patient with others in their journey.  And never forget how love changed you for the better!

Are you willing to change the not-so-nice parts of your personality?

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The Power of Cool

The very moment we take control of our lives and destiny, we set into motion waves of positive energy that have interesting ripple effects.  In our genuine quest to become better, the universe will most assuredly give us necessary opportunities to challenge our thinking.  And if your’re like me, even though I have learned to welcome those challenges, I don’t always like the way they make me feel.

Years ago, a wonderfully wise and beautiful friend taught me the “Power of Cool.”  The Power of Cool is a phrase I  coined to mean remaining cool and calm in negative or uncertain circumstances.  I recently have employed The Power of Cool method and realized two wonderful effects it produced.

First, my unhealthy circumstances forced me to remember why taking control of my life, in this moment, is necessary.  It taught me that my dreams, hopes, and desires are worth any challenge. Each day has given me new respect for myself, increased my self-worth, and given me a stronger desire to accomplish my goals.

Second, the people around me are given beautiful opportunities for change.  When I do not react they way others expect, then at that moment they must adapt. When I remain cool and unemotional, my positive energy sends a powerful message that I am in control and have a wonderful and well deserved advantage.

No matter what circumstance you find yourself in, remember “The Power of Cool” and why it is important to your destiny.

“Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain cool and unruffled under all circumstances.” Thomas Jefferson

How do you control your circumstances?

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I Just Did It

It feels incredible! It’s an emotional high that puts joy in my heart and peaceful in my sleep.  I’m sure by now you are wondering, “What is so incredible?”  Well, I’m glad you asked.  I crossed off an important item on my bucket list.  This was special because I had to face many fears, do a lot of changing, and grow through what felt like unending criticism.

Today, I’m standing taller because my desire for change was stronger than any negative energy the world had to offer.  Not only do I want better for my life, I believe I deserve better.

When was the last time you felt on top of the world?

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On the Good Foot

This year will be the year that my dreams come true.  I know this for a fact because I am taking the necessary actions to make it happen.  I have come to a place in my life where I no longer want to just think about a better life.  Now, I have given myself the love and freedom to DO IT!

My comfort zones have been abandoned, my head is filled with positive thoughts, and my heart is protected with faith. So now as I rise on the good foot, I stand knowing that success is mine and I can’t wait to share it.

 

How will you make your dreams come true?

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Rollercoaster of Love

We all have people in or lives that have a difficult time managing their relationships.

Whether they are romantic, friendships, business, or family, we all have ups and

downs.

One of the best remedies for such difficulties is to figure out what role you play.

What are you doing or not doing?  What are you saying or not saying?  Do you

fight fair? Do you like who you become when you are around this person?

Even though love at times can feel like a rollercoaster, you must know when it

is best to get off of the ride.  Loving relationships move you forward in a

healthy and positive direction together.  Getting the answers to these

important questions will put you on the right track to a healthier relationship.

 

How does your love treat you?

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