Not too long ago, I was talking with a client about helping him with his relationships and how to improve them. His story reminded me of my past struggles in relationships. I shared with him how negative self-talk was playing a powerful role in damaging my relationships. Most importantly, my relationship with myself. Because I thought of myself in a negative way, my feelings, choices, and behaviors fell in line with my thoughts. My turning point came when I woke up feeling sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I wanted better for myself because I knew I deserved better. I was finally able to accept that I was created for a beautiful purpose and was willing to do whatever necessary to take control of my destiny. Life coaching was a wonderful experience in my life. But I will always be thankful that I gave myself permission to live in the light and no longer exist in the darkness!
What do your voices say to you?
We all have people in or lives that have a difficult time managing their relationships.
Whether they are romantic, friendships, business, or family, we all have ups and
One of the best remedies for such difficulties is to figure out what role you play.
What are you doing or not doing? What are you saying or not saying? Do you
fight fair? Do you like who you become when you are around this person?
Even though love at times can feel like a rollercoaster, you must know when it
is best to get off of the ride. Loving relationships move you forward in a
healthy and positive direction together. Getting the answers to these
important questions will put you on the right track to a healthier relationship.
How does your love treat you?
Each morning is a new opportunity to become the person that
you were created to be. We are all made to live strong,
fearless, and abundant lives. The ability to love in many
directions puts us on the path to reap a great harvest.
How many directions will you love?
Years ago, I believed that only teenagers dealt with peer pressure. To me, it seemed as if adults were free to say and do whatever they liked. Goodness, was I wrong. It wasn’t until my 30’s that I was able to see just how adults succumb to pressure from their peers.
It was a long journey for me to completely stop what I call the, “Too Many Mind Syndrome.” The Too Many Mind Syndrome is when an individual is passively being controlled or manipulated by others. For example, I “mind” what people think about me as a person, I “mind” the image I project to others, or I “mind” if people really like me. This person spends so much time focusing on other people that they have neglected their true sense of self. This course of behavior ultimately leads to an unsatisfying life.
When we begin to “mind” and respect our own authentic voice, life becomes fuller and richer. This does not mean that the opinions of others is meaningless. However, it does mean that the energy I gave to others I will now actively use to nurture my spirit!
When life is better balanced it most fulfilling!
How many minds are you juggling?
We attract to ourselves what we hold inside. Every circumstance,
every person, and every situation that we attract and experience is
based on what is inside of us. Could you ask for a more magnificent system than this?
Your life is a reflection of what you hold inside of you, and what you hold
inside you is always under your control.
Rhonda Byrne- The Secret
What do you hold inside of you?
In the game of poker, an Ace In the Hole means that one of the player’s down card is an ace. In the game of life it can mean a hidden strength or comfort. Sounds innocent enough, but depending on how well you use your ace determines how well you play the game.
I was talking to a dear friend the other day and she was telling me how she has pushed away alot of significant relationships in her life. She told me that being in a rocky marriage, rescuing adult children from their mistakes, health issues, and financial problems have all conspired to keep her from reaching out to her friends. Over a period of years, she has learned how to function without them. Guilt and shame were her primary reasons for not reaching up for help. Life is at a critical point, and she has found herself isolated, withdrawn, and totally disconnected from her power sources. After talking with her, she began to understand why keeping in close contact with her “”Ace In the Holes” on a regular basis is vital to her existance.
It is important that we have many healthy and solid friendships and activities to nourish our souls. They are the safety we need to weather life’s storms.
How many Aces do you have?
“I am in the perfect position for a MIRACLE!” When your PASSION and your PURPOSE are greater than your FEARS and EXCUSES, your heart will find a way!” Unknown
What MIRACLES are you ready to receive?
Recently, I was blessed by a friend that gave me a boost of confidence, love, and faith.
At the moment, life seems to be giving me many valuable lessons. And even though
I know that I will make it through unscathed, I can’t help but feel the pressures of it all.
Now one thing is certain. The love and support of good friends makes this journey we call
life worth the price of this fantastic ride!
Who makes up your support system?
Lately, living in Memphis, Tennessee has come with many challenges and heartaches. A couple of weeks ago, the Mighty Mississippi River flooded many of our homes, businesses, and local attractions. Many of us were shocked to see just how damaging those waters had become. Now that the waters are receding, we are left to cope with the millions of dollars in damages that wind and water have produced.
Despite the long hard road ahead, I have observed one powerful blessing. That blessing is unity. Memphis has long been known for its history of racial tension and the great divide between ethnic groups. However, in the wake of our tragedy and misfortune, it has not gone unappreciated that the strong winds of change have come to rain down the beautiful blessing of uniting together to help one another through life’s storms.
I truly have been blessed. I have only lost my internet service. But what I do have I give with a free and happy heart. Sometimes, just allowing others to know you care is worth its weight in gold.
How do you help others in their time of need?
Questions, questions, questions. Life is filled with them. As children we are taught
that the only stupid question is the one not asked. When we begin to ask life questions,
it can signify that we are undergoing a major shift.
Life and all of its truths are readily available to us all at any given moment. However,
the ones who are courageous enough to ask the right questions are able to discover
and receive truth.
When our hearts deeply search for answers to life questions, we must remain open
for those answers to come in new expected and unexpected ways. A life filled with
meaning and purpose is one that has been examined.
What questions would you like to ask?