Hello my name is FEAR! You may not know who I am but I certainly know who you are. I’m the one who speaks negative thoughts in your head. I’m responsible for ruining that important relationship. And most importantly, I am the one responsible for holding you back. I enjoy your company and want to keep you for myself. You make me feel good when you give into me. I enjoy hearing you tell yourself that you can’t do something. That gives me power, and I like controlling you. Control is my modus operandi. I must have it. I’m smart enough to know that if you ever begin to listen and respond to truth, then I will lose you forever. And that would be bad for me.
Is today your opportunity for change? Or will you allow fear to continue to control you? You have the power to decide.
Tis the season for those wonderful New Year’s Resolutions. If you’re like me, you have a strong desire to have a better quality of life. There are several poor habits that I wish to correct. Some of them are small while others feel impossible to change. However, today I give myself permission to make mistakes. I pledge to be kinder to myself with my thoughts and actions. And if I fall short of my goals, I promise to speak gentle and encouraging words of life into my spirit. My new motto is, “Dust yourself off and try again!”
What tool do you use to stay on track? Future Focused
Not too long ago, I was talking with a client about helping him with his relationships and how to improve them. His story reminded me of my past struggles in relationships. I shared with him how negative self-talk was playing a powerful role in damaging my relationships. Most importantly, my relationship with myself. Because I thought of myself in a negative way, my feelings, choices, and behaviors fell in line with my thoughts. My turning point came when I woke up feeling sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I wanted better for myself because I knew I deserved better. I was finally able to accept that I was created for a beautiful purpose and was willing to do whatever necessary to take control of my destiny. Life coaching was a wonderful experience in my life. But I will always be thankful that I gave myself permission to live in the light and no longer exist in the darkness!
What do your voices say to you?
In the game of poker, an Ace In the Hole means that one of the player’s down card is an ace. In the game of life it can mean a hidden strength or comfort. Sounds innocent enough, but depending on how well you use your ace determines how well you play the game.
I was talking to a dear friend the other day and she was telling me how she has pushed away alot of significant relationships in her life. She told me that being in a rocky marriage, rescuing adult children from their mistakes, health issues, and financial problems have all conspired to keep her from reaching out to her friends. Over a period of years, she has learned how to function without them. Guilt and shame were her primary reasons for not reaching up for help. Life is at a critical point, and she has found herself isolated, withdrawn, and totally disconnected from her power sources. After talking with her, she began to understand why keeping in close contact with her “”Ace In the Holes” on a regular basis is vital to her existance.
It is important that we have many healthy and solid friendships and activities to nourish our souls. They are the safety we need to weather life’s storms.
How many Aces do you have?