Stillness and Sanctuary

Stillness and Sanctuary


5 Bountiful Benefits of Creating Space In Your Life



It’s a new year and you really want to create a new you. However, like so many people, you might not feel so motivated to get started. Trust me, I’ve been there. Yes, that’s right. This personal development coach has struggles. Many struggles that I have been fortunate to overcome and grow through.

One of my favorite tools I use is called Creating Space. The Creating Space exercise helps us to become mindful of our immediate space, and how to use that space to create mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

Well-being, as defined by Merriam-Webster, is the state of being happy, healthy, or prosperous. Sounds lovely doesn’t it? But in our busy hectic world, I would settle for just comfortable.

Think about it, imagine having the ability to create more happy, healthy, and prosperous days throughout your year. It’s a superpower worth having and it’s easier than you think to possess.

Simply become mindful of your environment. Then take the necessary steps to clear out the things that no longer promote a sense of well-being, and watch how happiness, health, and prosperity find its way into your life.

Here are the 5 Bountiful Benefits of Creating Space

Clean Space.  Find a small room or space within a room to call your own. Make this space clutter free. In this space, place things that bring positive emotions. If necessary, gently remind yourself to be diligent in keeping your space clutter free. Remember, you’re not just cleaning. You are creating a safe and soothing space to retreat.

For me, this is my meditation room. My meditation room promotes feelings of comfort and safety. It feels good looking around and knowing this space is just for me.

Increased Well-being.  It can feel good knowing that you have a space that makes sense to you. Especially when in so many other parts of our lives, we have very little control. However, in your created space, you are the designer. It has the potential to give you a safe and supportive foundation to build the new and improved you.

Clarity. Clarity is when there is little distance between what you want and how to get it. You feel the excitement of new worlds opening to you. No longer are you burdened by doubt or insecurity. Clarity helps to connect you to unlimited possibilities.

Letting Go of People That Use You.  Do you have people in your life that give you very little in return? Have you surrounded yourself with people who make you feel as if you work harder to maintain a mediocre relationship? If you answered yes to these questions, then maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your standards for quality relationships.

As a personal development coach, I share with clients the importance of surrounding yourself with supportive people and being selective with whom you allow into your inner circle.

As we get older, the need for quality over quantity becomes critical. It’s the time of life when you place a premium on taking better care of yourself and wanting to be with others that value your vision for your life.

Distractions are huge dream killers and energy zappers. Be courageous to lovingly let go of people who are not able to adapt to your new and healthier way of life.

Let Go of Things You No Longer Use.  Many of us are blessed to have nice things. There are also many of us that have been blessed to have a lot of nice things. The revolutionary act of decluttering is not only great for you and your home, but you have the potential to be a tremendous blessing to others.

Those things that no longer serve you, are the very things that someone else is wishing to own. By letting go of these things, you free yourself to open the door to be blessed in return. You feel a sense of release of old things. There is freedom that comes with making peace with your past and letting it go.

The Word No Becomes Your BFF.  After you create your safe space and life begins to work better for you, saying no becomes a priority. You realize your value and are more motivated to enforce your personal boundaries.

Nothing says love better than an individual that is respectful of oneself. We all have a golden opportunity to show others the best way to love us. Simply by showing them the respectful and healthy ways that we love ourselves.

There are many different ways you can create space in your life. This simple and effective exercise, has the potential to put you on the right road to creating a new you and being a positive influence on others.

My journey started with one room in my home. That one room turned into a safe and supportive way to better enjoy life.


What ways can you create space in your life?

Future Focused

Creating Space

Welcome 2018!

This year at Future Focused, I am introducing my new Mindful Living Series. Each month we will take a different topic and discuss how to make a more mindful impact in our lives throughout the year.

I hope you enjoy this series and receive all the love and joy from which it is created. Thank you for taking this journey with me and I look forward to sharing 2018 with you.

Future Focused

Shenita Sanders, MA, CPPC

3 Things I’m leaving behind in 2017 to have an amazing 2018

I don’t know about you, but 2017 has been a year filled with lots of growing pains and moments of uncertainty. However, in true Shenita fashion, I have looked inward to find the solutions to my pain and insecurities.

Those of you that know me, understand that I whole heartedly believe that the inner form creates the outer reality. When things are going well in my life, it’s because I am taking good care of myself and being mindful of my actions. When my life feels out of sorts, I am allowing life to get in the way of not making myself a priority. I often hear myself say, ” I’ll get to it later.” Thus begins the slippery slope on the downward spiral.

Fast forward through months of living and learning, and I want to share with you the top 3 things I’m happily leaving behind in 2017.


Declutter. Declutter. Declutter. This is a very liberating activity.

The act of getting rid of stuff. Clearing out old or stale energy from your physical space so that new and fresh energy can circulate without restriction.

At some point, you have to ask yourself, ” Do I really need to hang on to that?” I was notorious for thinking that as soon as I get rid of it that’s when I will need it.

Wanna know what I got from removing excess? I received decreased anxiety, increased peace of mind, and an overall better sense of well-being.

What was junk to me became huge blessings to others. It became apparent to me that in my home were many opportunities to reach out to others and be the blessing. Not once have I said, ” I wish I’d kept that.”

Self Imposed Limits

The new year will bring an openness to try new things. While I want to be mindful of my actions, I don’t want to miss out on life.

I was so busy holding on to old things, that I’d forgotten how to make room for new opportunities. I’d gotten too comfortable with what was and neglected the possibilities of what could be.

Feeling stuck is a difficult place to reside. The biggest tragedy is that I’d convinced myself that I couldn’t do any better.

Energy Zappers

Energy Zappers are people or things that literally zaps the energy from you.

Ever walked away from someone or something feeling drained? I certainly have. More than I’d care to admit.

I noticed that when I don’t enforce personal boundaries, some unhealthy patterns resurface.

Social media, unhealthy relationships, and poor self care are major triggers. You’ve got to be honest with yourself and know when it’s time to walk away gracefully and reclaim your life.

I am grateful for 2017. I learned some amazing life changing lessons that will serve me well in the new year. I look forward to growing stronger and happier with each day.

Happy New Year everyone!

Shenita Sanders, MA, CPPC

Welcome December

Can you believe it’s December?

For me, this year has gone by quickly. This time last year, my wife and I set our personal and family intentions for 2017. Our biggest goal was to declutter our lives and create space for growth. We had no idea that we would move from Memphis to Greenville, SC.

Along the way, we met many loving people, worked with many charitable organizations, and learned the joys of letting go and giving.

So once again, we are taking the month of December and joining collaborative forces to further build on our incredible momentum toward personal and professional excellence.

It is my sincere desire that we can inspire you to take time for personal reflection and cultivate a spirit of inspired living for 2018.

I want to personally thank ALL of my clients for seeing value in me as a coach and the mission of Future Focused Coaching.

As always, I am here to serve you and look forward to hearing all of your wonderful stories.

In Appreciation and Love,

Shenita Sanders, MA, CPPC

#PersonalReflection #InspiredLiving2018

#FutureFocusedCoaching #ForwardMomentum #BeTheBlessing

Being Self-Full


It’s a wonderful feeling coaching people on how to thrive in their personal and professional lives. One of the most important steps to thriving is self-care.

When I worked as a mental health therapist, I was very good at taking care of everyone else and putting my needs low on my priorities list. Now, working as a coach, I make sure to take great care of myself and have fun. I have since learned that when I’m at my best, I deliver my best coaching.

Those of us that are in leadership, management, or service positions, must learn to value the benefits of making self-care a life-giving skill. Not only do you have the potential to develop healthier and happier habits, but it will also lead to a more fulfilling and productive career.

Taking care of yourself is NOT being selfish. It is being self-full. The contents in the cup are for me. As my cup overflows, I give to others and that is when the magic happens.

Future Focused

Now Go and Screw Up!


Congratulations to all the 2017 graduates! You have accomplished a major victory.

As you go off into this big beautiful world, I have one piece of wisdom to share. Allow yourself plenty of room to make mistakes and grow from the experience.

Even though you have received a valuable education, there remains plenty of opportunities for further growth. Unless you are someone who knows everything there is to know about everything, I believe its safe to say that you will make some mistakes.

A wise African Proverb says, “Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors.” The rough seas of life, will teach you how to successfully navigate obstacles, develop or strengthen critical skills, develop character, and teach you to value what is most important.

Life is filled with many twists and turns. Be mindful to show yourself compassion. Most importantly, be certain to turn any mistakes into opportunities for valuable lessons.

Future Focused