Category Archives: Respect

Teach Them Well


Respect is critical in any relationship. Be mindful to set appropriate boundaries and enforce them consistently. This is a wonderful self-care tool to use. Being aware of your personal limits and respectfully enforcing them, shows others just how valuable you believe yourself to be.

What are some of the ways that you respect and love yourself?

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So You Think You Know Me

When people criticize your glory, it’s because they have no idea about your story. The light your life shines often illuminates the not so nice parts in other peoples lives. Instead of taking this as an opportunity to work on those things that causes them unhappiness, critical people find it easier to attack you. When this happens, use your heart to look deeper than the negative words and offer compassion instead of defensive or negative comments. What critics are really saying is, “I want what you have and I’m scared that I will never have it.” Share with them the reason why your light shines so brightly. You could be the missing link to their destiny!

How do you handle criticism?                                                                          

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Can’t We All Just Get Along? No really, I’m Serious! Part 2

Anyone that knows me, is well aware that I live by the philosophy of , “Live and Let Live!”  My heart truly believes that everyone has the right to live a life that is most authentic to their spirit.  Rarely, will I ever join in unproductive debates about politics, religion, or things that I believe are wrong about a particular person.  For as long as I can remember, my mind focuses on discussing ideas and possibilities rather than problems and negativity. But once in a blue moon, I find it hard to remain silent about a particular situation.  So for those of you that normally read my blog posts, I warn you now that this post will have some differences.

I’m sure there are very few people that have not heard about the death of Travon Martin and the involvement of George Zimmerman.  There have been plenty of moments when secretly I have wept for not only Travon and his family, but also the state of humanity.

Over the past few weeks, I have heard so many bizarre and disturbing details that for my emotional sanity, I have purposefully stayed away from any news concerning the case.  That was until this morning.

I was checking my email and I saw a news story about Spike Lee apologizing for a retweet.  Curiosity got the best of me and I clicked on the link to read the story.  Needless to say, I was horrified at what I read. Spike Lee retweets the incorrect address of George Zimmerman to his twitter followers. Consequently displacing an elderly couple in their 70’s. OMG! It is my understanding that this couple feared for their physical and emotional safety.  Could you imagine walking to your mailbox and receiving hate mail from strangers, or stepping outside your door and seeing strange packages from people you do not know?  What is the likelihood that this elderly couple in their 70’s tweet and facebook? Literally, you go to bed feeling reasonably safe only to wake up and discover that you are the most hated person in America and not knowing what you did to whomever to upset them.

Here’s the point of this long rant. Adding hatred to perceived hate will not bring  justice, peace, or healing. What was Spike Lee and Rosanne Barr thinking? I really would like to hear them say what positive outcome they hoped for by giving what they thought was George Zimmerman’s address. In my opinion, here we have two celebrities that have a well documented  histories of public scandal and feeling misunderstood.  I’m pretty sure there was a time in their careers that the media and the jury of public opinion have mercilessly crucified them, justified or not.  But rarely have I heard of anyone being persecuted or judged, later tell stories of how much they appreciated that season persecution.

Other than justice, peace, and healing for everyone involved, I pray most for Trayvon Martin’s life to serve as a powerful reminder of why love is so very important. The reason why stereotypes and racial profiling is tolerated and used by us all, (be honest with yourself here) is because of our resistance to step outside of our comfort zones and get to know people that are different from ourselves.  That doesn’t mean that you will like everyone, but you will at least have a working knowledge of the differences that make each person unique.

WAKE UP people! Start loving yourselves so that you are not quick to focus on what you see as a problem in someone else.  Get rid of all people and things that feed negativity into your spirit. Start asking yourself why someone or something has you so angry. Love yourself enough to grow through the experience and remember to be patient with others in their journey.  And never forget how love changed you for the better!

Are you willing to change the not-so-nice parts of your personality?

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Reunited And It Feels So Good

In relationships, we are taught that absence makes the heart grow

fonder.  In many cases that can be true.  Being able to take time

for personal nourishment, can give you the precious opportunity

to appreciate the people and things in your life. The gift of seeing

the beauty in your loved ones will make for a special reunion.


Who do you miss?

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Rollercoaster of Love

We all have people in or lives that have a difficult time managing their relationships.

Whether they are romantic, friendships, business, or family, we all have ups and


One of the best remedies for such difficulties is to figure out what role you play.

What are you doing or not doing?  What are you saying or not saying?  Do you

fight fair? Do you like who you become when you are around this person?

Even though love at times can feel like a rollercoaster, you must know when it

is best to get off of the ride.  Loving relationships move you forward in a

healthy and positive direction together.  Getting the answers to these

important questions will put you on the right track to a healthier relationship.


How does your love treat you?

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Customer Service

What happened to people saying THANK YOU?  I remember a time

when people at least appeared appreciative for your business.  Seems

like lately, I barely receive a thank you.

The words thank you are special for several reasons.  First, they have

the unique ability to give happiness and joy.  Second, they bless you

with the opportunity to receive more.  And lastly, they place you on a

path to accomplish your goals and live your dreams.

When your mind and heart are in a state of gratitude, you are

making a conscious decision to see and accept the goodness that

life is presenting to you. Continuing in this state of gratitude can

usher in an unprecedented abundance of wealth.


What are you thankful for?

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Let There Be Peace

A wise old gentleman retired and purchased a modest home near a junior high school. He spent the first few weeks of retirement in peace and contentment…then a new school year began. The very next afternoon three young boys, full of youthful after-school enthusiasm, came down the street, beating merrily on every trash can they encountered. The crashing percussion continued day after day, until finally the wise old man decided it was time to take some action.

The next afternoon, he walked out to meet the young percussionists as they banged their way down the street. Stopping them, he said, ” You kids are a lot of fun. I like to see you express your exuberance like that. Used to do the same thing when I was your age. Will you do me a favor? I’ll give you each a dollar if you’ll promise to come around everyday and do your thing.”

The kids were elated and continued to do a bangup job on the trash cans. After a few days, the oldtimer greeted the kids again, but this time he had a sad smile on his face. “This recession’s really putting a big dent in my income,” he told them. “From now on, I will only be able to pay you 50 cents to beat on the cans.” The noisemakers were obviously displeased, but they did accept his offer and continued their afternoon ruckus.

A few days later, the wily retiree approached them again as they drummed their way down the street. “Look,” he said, “I haven’t received my Social Security check yet, so I’m not going to be able to give you more than 25 cents. Will that be okay?”
“A lousy quater?” the drum leader exclaimed. “If you think were going to waste our time, beating these cans around for a quater, your’re nuts! No way mister. We quit!” And the old man enjoyed peace and serenity for the rest of his days.

Submitted by: Gentle Spaces News

How can you outsmart your problems?
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