3 Things I’m leaving behind in 2017 to have an amazing 2018

I don’t know about you, but 2017 has been a year filled with lots of growing pains and moments of uncertainty. However, in true Shenita fashion, I have looked inward to find the solutions to my pain and insecurities.

Those of you that know me, understand that I whole heartedly believe that the inner form creates the outer reality. When things are going well in my life, it’s because I am taking good care of myself and being mindful of my actions. When my life feels out of sorts, I am allowing life to get in the way of not making myself a priority. I often hear myself say, ” I’ll get to it later.” Thus begins the slippery slope on the downward spiral.

Fast forward through months of living and learning, and I want to share with you the top 3 things I’m happily leaving behind in 2017.


Declutter. Declutter. Declutter. This is a very liberating activity.

The act of getting rid of stuff. Clearing out old or stale energy from your physical space so that new and fresh energy can circulate without restriction.

At some point, you have to ask yourself, ” Do I really need to hang on to that?” I was notorious for thinking that as soon as I get rid of it that’s when I will need it.

Wanna know what I got from removing excess? I received decreased anxiety, increased peace of mind, and an overall better sense of well-being.

What was junk to me became huge blessings to others. It became apparent to me that in my home were many opportunities to reach out to others and be the blessing. Not once have I said, ” I wish I’d kept that.”

Self Imposed Limits

The new year will bring an openness to try new things. While I want to be mindful of my actions, I don’t want to miss out on life.

I was so busy holding on to old things, that I’d forgotten how to make room for new opportunities. I’d gotten too comfortable with what was and neglected the possibilities of what could be.

Feeling stuck is a difficult place to reside. The biggest tragedy is that I’d convinced myself that I couldn’t do any better.

Energy Zappers

Energy Zappers are people or things that literally zaps the energy from you.

Ever walked away from someone or something feeling drained? I certainly have. More than I’d care to admit.

I noticed that when I don’t enforce personal boundaries, some unhealthy patterns resurface.

Social media, unhealthy relationships, and poor self care are major triggers. You’ve got to be honest with yourself and know when it’s time to walk away gracefully and reclaim your life.

I am grateful for 2017. I learned some amazing life changing lessons that will serve me well in the new year. I look forward to growing stronger and happier with each day.

Happy New Year everyone!

Shenita Sanders, MA, CPPC


Welcome December

Can you believe it’s December?

For me, this year has gone by quickly. This time last year, my wife and I set our personal and family intentions for 2017. Our biggest goal was to declutter our lives and create space for growth. We had no idea that we would move from Memphis to Greenville, SC.

Along the way, we met many loving people, worked with many charitable organizations, and learned the joys of letting go and giving.

So once again, we are taking the month of December and joining collaborative forces to further build on our incredible momentum toward personal and professional excellence.

It is my sincere desire that we can inspire you to take time for personal reflection and cultivate a spirit of inspired living for 2018.

I want to personally thank ALL of my clients for seeing value in me as a coach and the mission of Future Focused Coaching.

As always, I am here to serve you and look forward to hearing all of your wonderful stories.

In Appreciation and Love,

Shenita Sanders, MA, CPPC

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Being Self-Full


It’s a wonderful feeling coaching people on how to thrive in their personal and professional lives. One of the most important steps to thriving is self-care.

When I worked as a mental health therapist, I was very good at taking care of everyone else and putting my needs low on my priorities list. Now, working as a coach, I make sure to take great care of myself and have fun. I have since learned that when I’m at my best, I deliver my best coaching.

Those of us that are in leadership, management, or service positions, must learn to value the benefits of making self-care a life-giving skill. Not only do you have the potential to develop healthier and happier habits, but it will also lead to a more fulfilling and productive career.

Taking care of yourself is NOT being selfish. It is being self-full. The contents in the cup are for me. As my cup overflows, I give to others and that is when the magic happens.

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Now Go and Screw Up!


Congratulations to all the 2017 graduates! You have accomplished a major victory.

As you go off into this big beautiful world, I have one piece of wisdom to share. Allow yourself plenty of room to make mistakes and grow from the experience.

Even though you have received a valuable education, there remains plenty of opportunities for further growth. Unless you are someone who knows everything there is to know about everything, I believe its safe to say that you will make some mistakes.

A wise African Proverb says, “Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors.” The rough seas of life, will teach you how to successfully navigate obstacles, develop or strengthen critical skills, develop character, and teach you to value what is most important.

Life is filled with many twists and turns. Be mindful to show yourself compassion. Most importantly, be certain to turn any mistakes into opportunities for valuable lessons.

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Imagine all the important people in your life. When you speak to them, do your words inspire or disempower?

So many times in this life, I have seen the amazing power of using empowering language. I haven’t met a person yet that doesn’t enjoy being seen in a beautiful light.

Speak words of beauty and watch how people rise up to become them.


What ways do you encourage yourself?

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Trust Yourself

Trust Yourself

Creating Reality

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One day very soon. This will be reality. I can feel the excitement now.


What greatness will you create?

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